If you want to learn to love, then you much start the process of finding out what it is, what qualities make up a loving person and how they are developed. Each person has the potential for love. But potential is never realized without work.
PROVERBS 29:18, “Where there is no vision, the people are unrestrained (‘perish’ in another translation), but happy is he who keeps the law.”
Like getting into shape physically, one has to have a vision for what is to be achieved and to achieve, one must take the necessary steps (“the law”) to achieve it.
That’s a law of life.
Generally, most things important, necessary, and scarce will not walk up behind you and tap you on the shoulder or fall into your lap or jump down your throat. You must want it and you must pursue it, meeting the conditions for achieving it.
Every person has an idea of what love is. Each one lives love in his/her limited fashion and does not seem to relate the resultant confusion and loneliness to his lack of knowledge about love and his general overall condition spiritually and emotionally.
In the United States, the divorce rate is at 53%. And the nearly 50% that don’t divorce live lives “of quiet desperation”, as Henry David Thoreau has stated.
If we fail in our relationships is it not because we have failed at love?
Our biggest problem today…is the feeling of being unwanted, uncared for, and deserted by everybody.” — Mother Teresa
No doubt, relationships are complex and challenging. We move from one to another, taking with us the same kind of thinking and condition we left the last one with.
This is known as “insanity.”
If you are hurting and disappointed with the quality of your relationships and want to work to develop your knowledge and improve your condition, give me a call at 865.776.0437
